The number one rule of thumb for de-stressing is to surround yourself with positive minded people. Steer clear of the naysayers that criticize you, bash your parenting style, or simply have nothing but negative things to say. The more you spend time with them, the more inclined you are to believe what they say. By eliminating this toxicity from your life, you allow yourself to make room to see the good in your life. You will begin to see the amazing person hiding beneath all the self-doubt.
I remember giving birth to my first child in 2002. I was 19-years-old, and all my friends were halfway through college, and preparing for their careers. A lot of us remained friends after high school, but things quickly changed when my son was born. Suddenly, they didn’t have time for me, but the few times we were able to do things together, they made a point to constantly remind me that my “life was over.” They told me things like, “oh my goodness; when do you have time to live?” or “I would just die if I had a baby at that age!” There was my personal favorite, “You don’t even dress up or do your makeup like you used to. You’ve gotten boring since becoming a mom!” The more time I spent with them, the more I envied their freedom and began to resent my own life, and the fact that I had a baby. I hated the way they made me feel, and I eventually stopped calling them or stopping by, and I noticed that a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I slowly began to embrace the lifestyle I was living; I wasn’t stress- free, but I was definitely headed in that direction.
Keep your head up, and choose people that keep a smile on your face!